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GETTING DUMPED SUCKS!…There isn’t any other way to put it.
Yesterday, you were so happy you could practically bench 360.
Today you don’t even want to go the gym. You just want to go home,
get drunk and get through the night. You thought that you were with
the person that you could marry. Now you are only left with questions:
How could this happen to you? How are you going to get through it?
How will you ever move on from the person you loved? Blah, blah,
blah.

Break ups aren’t easy for anyone. Some guys get through it by
getting it on with endless one-night stands while imagining their ex.
Some guys just go out with their friends and make out with random
chicks while imagining their ex. Some guys sit at home and drink.
Others don’t deal with their breakups at all. But those who are
seriously devastated (and smart) realize that they need some time to
work out their feelings and fill the baseball sized hole in the middle of
their heart before they can move past the one-nighters and toward a
real relationship. That’s why you’re here.

One important thing to remember while going through a breakup is to
retain a shred of dignity in the eyes of your ex. What does that
mean?
No internet stalking. No drunk phone calls. No late night drive by’s.

Instead of doing all of those stupid things that you’ve probably done a
million times before in different situations, you’ll follow the Exercises
in this book. Then you’ll learn how to deal with sitting at home and
waiting for her to call. What to do when you see her with another guy;
how to accept that the relationship is over; and how to mentally
prepare yourself for a new relationship.

Don’t forget that you can log into the forum on our website www.
brokenheartedguy.com and speak with other people who are in your
same situation. You’ll find it’s easier to go through this with others
who are as miserable as you; as they can relate in ways that your
happy friends cannot.

We wrote this book because we noticed there aren’t a lot of books out
there for men about breakups. Sure you can read a lot of chick books
for the same kind of advice – but why would you want to do that?

The activities in this book will keep you occupied while you heal. This
book is not going to presume to give you a timeline for moving on.
Nobody can tell you ‘when’ you will be healed; it’s your heart and your
own unique situation. Use the book and the forum as a healthy outlet
for your emotions. Take the time to completely finish and understand
each of the Exercises. Remember that time is of no consequence and
repeat the Exercises as often as necessary.

While you complete the Exercises, try to understand how the answers
relate to your last relationship and more importantly, how they relate
to you as a person.